Monday, November 7, 2011
Will The Real Lynn Allen Please Stand Up: November 2011
Will The Real Lynn Allen Please Stand Up: November 2011
So I’m going to skip past all of the sun salutations for this one. I want to get right to the point. Lately everything dials down to relationships. The thing about relationships is that they come and go, people that you thought would be with you your whole life vanish in an instant. I was talking to my brother today and he told me that he was done with relationships, that it was the one thing in life that would make him different than our father, well different and better. There’s this tiny part of me that almost wanted to laugh in his face, because anyone who knows me and knows all the stories about my father would know that is not a perfect person and his biggest flaw wasn’t his relationships with people. It was trying to find a reason to trust people. If my father had not had the relationships that he had then his children would not be here and he counts us as one the greatest achievements. I think that my brother is lost in his own way. It is a lonely existence to go through life without anyone, people need compassion. I guess a part of me feels sorry for him, because I don’t think that he really gets it. To him everything is all about being better than our father. My father is no saint, but when I hear people talk bad about him there is a part of me that makes me want to rip someone’s head off literally. It’s a natural part of life to want to be loved and to want to share a part of who you really are with that special someone. So if these words do pass my brother’s eyes, I would say to be too quick to give up. Great relationships have been built on so much less than the fears of turning out like your father. Having someone’s blood running through your veins does not mean that you will be like them.
Another thing that I would like to say is if you are in a relationship and you don’t want that person anymore, don’t be so cruel as to throw someone else under the bus just b/c you are to afraid to tell that person that you don’t want them anymore. Grow a set and speak your mind. Some people just aren’t meant to be, and if you spend the rest of your life cowering in a corner then I guess you deserve every bit of misery that comes your way. I walk around and ask people how long they have been married and then when I ask them if they had everything to go back and do over all I hear is silence of the lambs. Because deep down you know that there is something that you would want to change. Maybe love is just a cruel trick that gets played on us all and we keep falling into it’s web because we don’t know any better and loneliness really is a huge tragedy that we all try to hide from. I'm tred of people coming with this craziness for their "relationship". People throw that word around like it's so casual. And maybe that is what's wrong, people are casual with each other and they always say that the are not open to the possibility of love. the real reason is that these people are really scared to feel anything at all, because all you are is numb and incapable of feeling anything.
Maybe all of my ramblings aren’t making since, maybe my brother JT will make it sound better with his opinion.
IS THERE A SUCH THING AS A SIMPLE RELATIONSHIP
I know people are reading this title and may be thinking John aka JT must be lazy in his relationships and
trust me that is not the case. I have really been thinking about this because I have been listening to
others relationship issues, thinking of my past relationships, as well as what I’m going through now. I
have been through the long distance relationships, those long term relationships the never surfaced,
and been in those crazy situations when you meet someone and the timing was wrong but you can see
yourself with that person for the rest of your life. Hell I even decided to be lonely because I felt like I
kept meeting the wrong people. Have you ever known a relationship that was as simple as meeting
someone, dating, moving in together, and then getting married? Is it possible to be that easy? Now I’m
not saying that being in a committed relationship doesn’t have its bumps, I just mean without such
strenuous things happening. What do men and women have to do to make that happen. Let me bring
you into my life for a minute. I have been in a relationship where my partner always thought because I
treated her well and with respect that I was running game. I mean damn, am I suppose to treat you like
shit for you to feel a brother. I met this one girl and from the start we hit it off. Agreed on so much and
had gone through some of the same things and we both wanted the same things, sounds like we were
on our way to the simple relationship path doesn’t it. As much as we had in common, she still had
strong feeling for her ex and she was moving back home soon and there was no way we could take any
steps further. Not to mention our career goals would not enable us to see each other either. Now when
I say she was moving back home, don’t think across town, I mean across the country. I’m not one to
front, it felt like I was being restricted from a love I knew I deserved. I know some of my closest friends
are probably reading this and may be shocked that I can be affected by a female but I’m not immune.
Now we both knew how it would play out so we remained friends, but it just makes you think. Does it
always have to be that way? Those who are reading this, do you feel that you settled in the relationship
you are in? When is it right to think about yourself and what you want in life without being criticized or
selfish? I know I am asking a lot of question in this portion of the blog, but these questions are very
important. As lonely as you may be, you should wait for the person who is meant for you because as
soon as don’t, you will meet the person you should be with. I have gone through so many downs, with
very limited ups that you would think that I would have just given up by now. I know I go through times
of depression as others do, but better believe I will persevere for what I want in life. Writing about my
life and putting it out to the world is not what I’m used to doing. I believe I needed to get some things
out like I used to when I recorded music. By writing this I want everyone to really talk to their mates and
get everything in the open because that conversation may be what propels you into that happiness that
you both have wished for. As well I want everyone reading this to think about what you want in your
relationship. People don’t think that I am not doing the same thing.