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Will the Real Lynn
Allen Please Stand Up: Reflection of 2012
Greetings all, I hope
that you all have had a wonderful holiday season with your family. Mine was as
interesting as it usually is.So, at
this time of year I usually do the same thing every year. I like to reflect
back on this past year before I go into the new one. I’m not going to make any
resolutions that I know that I will break, instead I will reflect on this year
and think of what I will do to be even better next year.I say this because I don’t think that I had a
bad year. I actually had quite the opposite.
I was on my face book
page and I went through and it gave me the option to see my top 20 moments of
this year.Funny thing is I feel like a
lot of great things happened this year. I got engaged to the most wonderful
guy. I met a lot of cool new people. I got to actually get to know my nephews a
little better this year and spend more time with my sister.Furthermore, I also got to spend time with my
father, which I did not think that was going to happen.
I also did experience
some rough situations. I said good bye to my great aunt, Julia; and to L’s
grandfather.I also witnessed the
emotional meltdown of soon to be ex-step mother. Not to mention, I also cut off
a few unhealthy friendships with people that I felt had already fulfilled their
purpose in my life.I also saw a lot of
pain capture America as some nut job shot up a movie theater full of
people.The one horrible thing that I
will never forget about this year would be the massacre of children at the
Sandy Hope Elementary School.The fact
that 20 innocent, beautiful children lost their lives because someone else did
not value their own life still haunts my dreams. My thoughts and prayers are
still with those families.
The one thing that I
hope to take from this year is to be more aware of my surroundings. In this day
in age, people are getting craftier when it comes to trying to screw you over.People are not afraid to throw their lives
away or yours for that matter. In addition people are even quicker to smile in
your face, and then in the blink of an eye throw you under the bus.
If I could wish for
anything in the coming year, it would be more patience. Patience will carry me
far if I can just learn to shake off anyone that tries to attack me. Truth be
told I’ve softened over the years.There
was once a time that I just didn’t care. I would say what I had to say and I
didn’t care if it hurt. My mouth is my biggest flaw, and I know that.However, it is something that I am working
on.Also in previous years I would also
hold a grudge. I had a hard time forgiving people for their follies and vices
towards me. Now I’ve learned to shake it off.No, the relationship will not be the same.I’ll be forgiving and not bring up the past,
but I will also watch closely to make sure that I don’t walk into another
situation from the past.What’s that old
“Fool me once, shame
on you; Fool me twice shame on me.”
Will the Real Lynn
Allen Please Stand Up: Opening the Door
Greetings to you all;
I’m pretty sure that by the end of this I will lose some readers, but at the
same time I hope to gain some.I am very
glad that President Obama will be serving another term.Yes a bunch of you want to cry and say that
he ruined this country, but what do you expect to happen when you inherit an
economically damaged country. You didn’t honestly think that all this shit
would go away after four years? If you did think that then you learned nothing
through life and the changing of the times.
Martin Luther King
Jr. said it best:
“All progress is precarious, and the solution of one problem
brings us face to face with another problem”
In order for us to really
get anywhere, a lot of battles have been fought. Our ancestors marched for us
to make better decisions. The president will not be able to clean this mess up
over night, it will take time. Patience is a virtue.
During this election I
have sat by idle watching people and seeing how they react. So now I will
address it all. To those of you who did not vote but have the nerve to be on face
book posting these ridiculous statements, you know nothing; because if you
really cared about how things turned out you should have taken an interest.You tried to close the door on the low percentile,
but we kicked it in.
For those of you who
are barely making it and had the nerve to go for a candidate because of the color
of his skin and not his principles, shame on you.Here I was thinking that we left this racist
thing behind in the past, guess I wrong. I’m not sure how your parents
raised you, but mine raised me to see that the world is not just black and
white; to embrace the many shades of grey in between.
I was sad to read the
many hateful statements that were posted on twitter. There was one that stuck
out to me that made me realize that people really are cruel. I’m almost ashamed
to repost it because I was as taken aback as some of you may be, but here it is
(see bottom of blog)
The first part was
bad enough b/c you’re talking about someone’s family. Those girls did not ask
for their father to be president, which is just where their path in life lead
them. The second part referring to Romney as a king and saying that she hopes
that he passes a law to make African American people slaves because she doesn’t
like doing stuff for herself was the jaw dropping moment for me. (Girl Get ya
life). My friend Jeremy was right, someone needs to back hand this chick. So, I’m
supposed to work hard and clean up after you and be treated as a lesser person?
I must have missed the memo that we
were stepping back into Civil War times.I hope that my blog makes it way to this misguided child.Honey, people did not march and die so that
we could go backwards. Stop looking at the situation as a black man is in the
oval office, just respect the position.People are under the impression that I would have been less than
cooperative if Romney had won.Let me be
clear on this even if the president had been a white man I still would have
respected the position; I don’t have to like him but I do haveto respect that he is the commanding officer
of this nation.
Moving on from that,
Romney being white or how much money he has did not have anything to with me not liking him, It was about what he stood for.Romney wanted to take away PBS; that would not have been a smart move.
You want to take away a channel that has a lot of educational television shows
that help today’s youth grow.How much
sense does that make? Our youth today are already running the streets and not
knowing how to speak proper English. Just imagine what would have happened if
PBS was taken off the air, I don’t think that I would want to see that future.
Furthermore, there is
the issue about abortion.I am a woman
and if I do not want to have a child that should be my choice. The government does
not own my body. I personally don’t favor abortion; but think of your daughters, sisters,
nieces, and wives. What if someone raped them and a child was created out of
that?Rape it’s self is a traumatic
experience in its self. To not be given a choice is just like not having your
own mind. People are going to do what they wanted to do and yes we understand
that when judgment day comes, that is going to be up to that person to be
prepared to meet God. We are not a perfect people; we do mess up from time to
I’ve always said that
the movie, Head of State with Chris Rock, was a premonition. Things are coming
to past as written. Instead of being upset help keep the door open. After all if one of us makes it out to a better life, why would you want to shut that door for others to follow. We constantly set ourselves up for failure when we leave others behind. Peace be
upon you all .
Hello all my lovely
readers. I hope you are having a wonderful day.Me, I am actually still in my PJ’s, debating on if I should go into the
kitchen and make some coffee.So, I’m
looking at the calendar and I’m realizing that it’s almost one year until my
wedding day.So naturally it’s time to
get started on planning the most important day of my life.A lot of people have asked why I don’t have a
wedding planner. I’ve decided that my sister, Makiba, my best friend, Corinna,
and I will be my wedding planners.A lot
of people are telling me that this process is going to stress me out, but they
have not seen me work magic in a crisis.
We are already
narrowing down our choices for venues.I
just have to work on the guest list. I would like to put a disclaimer out and
say that L and I come from pretty big families and that if I don’t send you an
invite, please don’t be mad, we are working on a budget and I don’t purposely
want to leave anyone out, but money really is an object here.
On the note of who
will be in my bridal party I’ve only decided on Makiba and Corinna. I’m still
working on the rest, because frankly some of my friends make me really
nervous.When I say nervous I mean I
watch them going through life and all the curves that it throws; and I wonder if
they will be able to juggle that and be able to live up to my expectations.
Let’s be honest, being a bride’s maid is more than just standing up
there with the bride and looking pretty; there is a lot of work that goes into
it. I need to see how I’m going to narrow this down.I think that I have a plan on how I can do
that, more on that in a later edition of my blog.
Another thing to work
on is L and I. Why do we need to work on us, because no relationship is
perfect. In a previous blog I wrote that L and I needed to work on our spiritual
relationship with God.The steps that we
are taking to do that are to actively find a church that we can become members
of together. Not to mention most church members also take a class before they
get married and that is what we are trying to do now.We have a church in mind, which is good.
So I’m wondering
about marriage in general.I don’t exactly
come from a family that is known for staying married.Matter of fact, I can honestly say that both
of my parents have been married multiple times and have failed at it. When people don’t stay together
and you are a child you wonder all sorts of things.Was the reason for them not working out my
fault? What could I have done better?All these questions remain unanswered as a child. But then as 1 Corinthians
“When I was a child I
spake as a child, I thought as a child and I understood as a child.When I became a man I put away childish
It’s funny how as an
adult you don’t ask those same longing questions.You see what is there right in front of your
eyes. I watched divorce twice already and I’ll watch it again.The first time I was three and even though I
was only three, it did not take a genius to figure out that my father was not
coming with us. On my mother’s word; it’s entirely his fault.Men are just always fire starters and they
don’t think about who would gets burned. All of it was meaningless jabber to me
at three.When I was 15 my father was at
his second divorce and even then the wicked lady stated that it was his entire
fault.At 15 I had more sense.Problems don’t just come from one person; it
takes two to cause a problem. So the "all his fault not mine" excuse started to be
Now the third one, I
thought that I liked her. I actually saw the remnants of some sort of
family.Then came the accusations and
the comments about me being fat and ungrateful. The final straw was watching
the total discontent that she had for my father in front of his children. If married
people disagree it should be behind closed doors, no one should be able to see
that you have a problem.
Adult figures have
been telling me my whole life to have respect for my elders, say please and
thank you. How am I to learn all these things when I see these so called "adults"
in my life behaving badly? You tell us to be one way but yet you are
hypocritical. I would never teach my children that.
One of the things
that I hope that I take into my marriage is to be able to talk about my
problems with L openly. Watching that bitch fest this past weekend awakened
something in me.I know that sometimes I
complain and sometimes I want things to be perfect.On the way home I had to apologize to my fiancée
because I don’t ever want to be that way. I don’t want to be a person that
marries multiple times. I only want to do this once and hopefully God will
bless my marriage to where I will not have to.
Well these are the
dull musings of my wandering mind.Comment if you want. Be blessed.
When I think of the first amendment I think of freedom of
speech, which means I’m going to evoke my right to speak freely and there are
going to be some hurt feelings somewhere, but that will pass. People are saying
that there is to be a vote tomorrow on the legalization of gay marriages. And I
hear all of the bullshit and all of the complaining.People want to get snobby and turn their
noses up.Some even want to throw
religion into the mix as to what God ordained as right and wrong.Personally, I’m sick of all the talk about
how there is a right side or a wrong one.Then again, who is to really judge what is right or wrong anymore?
I’m tired of all the stupidity that is out there, after all
gayness is not an illness that can just rub off on you at anytime.I’m not completely sure how one determines
the formula on who’s gay or not, but who cares? I’m not gay, because that is what I
chose for me. However, I have loads of friends who are, and I don’t understand why
that should be censored, why it should matter.People come up with these stupid reasons as to why they think that being
gay is not acceptable, what do I have to say to those people besides, they just
can’t see things the way that they are, and they would rather let the sanctuary
of their own ignorance come crashing down around them instead of learning
something.Why, because they don’t know
any better; then how do we choose what side is right?
The answer is we don’t. Since the beginning of time there
have always been two sides. People are always going to be on opposite sides.
Because in the world that we live in people think that things are always black
and white, and hardly ever pay attention to the gray areas in between.Yes people think that gays should not be able
to marry, but that is stupid.What if
America as we know it was not allowed to enter into marriage at all.Marriage is really that special, aside from
the vast amounts of money we spend on a ceremony, it’s all about the principle of
being able to stand before the gods and everyone to admit your deepest feelings
to someone.I wouldn’t want to be a part
of a world that segregates love. In my eyes soul mates are not just a man and a
woman.Soul mates can be anyone; any
Oh, I’m sure that all those sanctimonious Christians out
there are outraged. But then one must ask; How dare you really sit there on
your pedestal and say that you are an authority on the bible when you skim
through it like it’s an unwanted school novel?You don’t have to like everyone, but you have to love them. Judge not
for ye not be judged.(I’m pretty sure a
lot of you missed out on that one, maybe the print in your bible was not big
enough.) What if the shoe were on the other foot, what if being straight was
known as being odd and being gay was the status quo? What if the government was
voting on if straight people could marry, would you see things
differently?No, they cannot. The
majority of the world can’t allow themselves to think that way. These days an open mind is a novelty, people
lack imagination and the possibility of new things happening.
So I guess in closing I can say is yes, people are overly judgmental;
they don’t stop to look at all the possibilities and only focusing on the one. Who
is to say that what we all believe is right?My views that gay people should be able to be looked at as normal people
might not be what someone else believes, and that’s fine.Instead of us fighting about who was wrong
and who was right, or trying to get each other to understand the other side. If
we survived the Holocaust and slavery, can’t we survive this too, and become
better people going forward?
So I’m back after a one month hiatus.A lot of people think that I’ve fallen off, but I’m still here.I have to take the time to blog about one of the top ten moments of my life.I’m ENGAGED!!!!! There are a lot of feelings going through my head right now.It’s like I remember telling L a long time ago that I didn’t think that this moment would ever happen.He would sit there with that handsome smirk on his face that he always gets and say:
“I’m not gonna be obvious about it, it will happen when you least expect it.”
As far back as I can remember, when I was five I used to play out what it would be like to be proposed to.I know five seems like a crazy age to think about things like that, but I had a wild imagination.I adored the thought of a man and a woman in the terms of forever.All those stories Pride and Prejudice, Emma, and Anne of Green Gables all amused me as a child.There was something about the heroine finding the one that she was suppose to be with that is so appealing.
I love romantic gestures, I love flowers and love that I I’ve finally found that one person in the world who wants me for me.The thing that i am dealing with a lot now are people coming out of the wood work that haven’t really been considered my friends in a long time or didn’t give a damn about my relationship, with their fake congratulations.I laugh out loud because I wonder why the hell you would even do that to yourself.I have lots of people tell me that L and I were doomed from the start. But I find myself really proud, because I grew up, I figured out what I wanted and all the gloom and doomers can all kick rocks.
I guess the biggest concern is my family.People laugh when I tell them that sometimes I don’t like them on a good day.As far back as I could remember my family didn’t really care about any of the aspects of my life.Why do I think that this is going to be any different?They all say that they are excited that I’m marrying into a great family.Maybe that’s how it’s supposed to be; when I marry I leave everything else behind, all the naysayers, and the bullshit.Because as long as I’ve waited for this moment, I don’t know how to really include people who have dropped out of my life or never been there or really cared.People tell me to be the bigger person all the time, and usually I am.I’m always saying sorry to people who did me some sort of wrong instead of the other way around.I’m done apologizing; I’m done trying to get you to be the type of people that I want in my life.
So if you have a feeling that I am talking about you, and you know you’ve fallen off.Do me a favor and don’t dishonor me with a fake ass apology that you know that you don’t even mean just so you can have a change at being in my spot light, because for once it is about me. I know that a lot of times that I have put myself last, but now I feel like this is my reward for doing that all these years.
My heart literally stopped when the waiter brought the ring to the table.I was incapable of forming words or phrases rendering myself completely speechless for the first time in my life.It seems so surreal to me. Like this is all a beautiful dream and I’m going to wake up soon. But every morning that I have woken up this week and stare at the gorgeous reminder on my hand that it all did happen, I find myself smiling uncontrollably.So to all of you, who have been sitting in the front row that is the stage of my life and are really happy for me, thank you.For those of you who I have not talked to or chilled within years or you haven’t thought about me stop embarrassing yourself.
I think the next couple of blogs are going to be called the wedding diaries, a full account of all the madness and chaos that I’m about to get into on the road to becoming Mrs. Lewis Jeter Jr.
“Some say the world will end in fire, and some say in ice.”
~Robert Frost ~
I know he was talking about relationships when he wrote this, but it also applies to the whole end of the world theory.Ever since 2012 started all I hear is how the world is supposed to end and we all are supposed to suffer horrible fates.Then I shake my head at the stupidity, because if people really knew the world was already going to hell in a hand basket.I don’t understand why we have to set a date for mankind to completely lose its way, when it took a wrong turn years ago.I don’t think that people really grasp how much our world has changed.
There was once a time that we were able to sleep in our homes and leave the doors unlocked. We knew absolutely everyone in our neighborhoods and never once had to question their integrity or intentions. We were trusting, we actually gave a damn, we cared about other people and we always wanted to help. Way before alarm systems, pepper spray, and tasers became necessary precautions; we trusted easy.Now we eye everyone with suspiciousness, always waiting for the other shoe to drop.We see someone stuck on the side of the road and instead of stopping; we keep it moving, because we think know a set up when we see one.
People don’t care these days, why because caring could get you killed.People have no fear.They aren’t afraid to hurt you and they are not afraid to take your life.The news proves that to us every day when we see some young mother going to jail for doing only God knows what to her kids, or kids killing their parents because they want to do what they want to do.It makes no sense, when exactly did we take this wrong turn?
When did people stop caring, when did hello’s and good byes start becoming rhetorical phrases? When did the rapping become a money thing instead of an artistic form of expression? When did the first line of an album’s thanks you’s stop being “I’d like to thank the creator “to “I’d like to thank myself.”?People kill me when they say that they got somewhere on their own when there is a higher power at work somewhere.Stop claiming the “team of me” and focus on how it really is that you became this extraordinary.
When did the world come to an end?Since the very beginning we’ve been crumbling in the tower of our existence. There is no expiration date on our demise.There’s no rewind button or a switch that we can flick.So the next time someone says that the world is coming to an end, ask them where the hell have they been this entire time, it's already here.